Have you ever consciously gone against your instinct on something and
later regretted it? I trust my instinct more often now but on one
important decision in 2017, I didn’t. At the time, the decision in
front of me was whether to focus on negotiation or health and
Training people (mostly women!) on how to negotiate their compensation
felt important, timely, and satisfying. It also was a topic coming up
in many conversations and felt like a clear path to a successful
consulting business. Health and wellness felt saturated and difficult
If you’ve been reading this blog, you clearly know the choice:
negotiation. 2017 was a year of numerous speaking engagements,
workshops, and 1:1 coaching. I enjoyed it and found it meaningful but
consistently had a nagging feeling it was the wrong choice.
The nagging feeling kept gaining steam and by the fall of 2017, I
finally started to pay attention. The past few months have been full
of reflection and figuring out what I most want to offer others. While
I’m still figuring out the specifics, it’s squarely within the
health and wellness world and will likely be a combination of
movement, meditation, self-care, nutrition, and other holistic health
I realize most of you are reading this because you want to learn how
to negotiate in your career. If you are looking for people to follow
on this topic, check out She Negotiates, Melissa Hereford, and The Worth Project .
If you’re interested in sticking around to see what the future
brings with this new focus, excellent! One small technique to offer
today is a 3-breath meditation. I learned this exercise recently and
love the simplicity of it: pay deep attention to your next three
breaths. I tend to take deeper, slower breaths into my belly and heart
center than normal when practicing this.
Simply by noticing the inhales and exhales of three deep breaths can
center us and bring a feeling of calm. I find myself doing this
several times a day during meetings at work, when I’m driving, or
when I have a few moments to myself. For an even deeper experience,
place both hands over your heart as you pay attention to the next
More health and wellness content will be coming to the blog in the near future!