trust your instinct.

Have you ever consciously gone against your instinct on something and
later regretted it? I trust my instinct more often now but on one
important decision in 2017, I didn’t. At the time, the decision in
front of me was whether to focus on negotiation or health and
wellness.

Training people (mostly women!) on how to negotiate their compensation
felt important, timely, and satisfying. It also was a topic coming up
in many conversations and felt like a clear path to a successful
consulting business. Health and wellness felt saturated and difficult
to differentiate.

If you’ve been reading this blog, you clearly know the choice:
negotiation. 2017 was a year of numerous speaking engagements,
workshops, and 1:1 coaching. I enjoyed it and found it meaningful but
consistently had a nagging feeling it was the wrong choice.

The nagging feeling kept gaining steam and by the fall of 2017, I
finally started to pay attention. The past few months have been full
of reflection and figuring out what I most want to offer others. While
I’m still figuring out the specifics, it’s squarely within the
health and wellness world and will likely be a combination of
movement, meditation, self-care, nutrition, and other holistic health
practices.

I realize most of you are reading this because you want to learn how
to negotiate in your career. If you are looking for people to follow
on this topic, check out She Negotiates, Melissa Hereford, and The Worth Project .

If you’re interested in sticking around to see what the future
brings with this new focus, excellent! One small technique to offer
today is a 3-breath meditation. I learned this exercise recently and
love the simplicity of it: pay deep attention to your next three
breaths. I tend to take deeper, slower breaths into my belly and heart
center than normal when practicing this.

Simply by noticing the inhales and exhales of three deep breaths can
center us and bring a feeling of calm. I find myself doing this
several times a day during meetings at work, when I’m driving, or
when I have a few moments to myself. For an even deeper experience,
place both hands over your heart as you pay attention to the next
three breaths. 

More health and wellness content will be coming to the blog in the near future!

timing is everything.

Here's hoping 2018 is off to a spacious and joyful start for you. I have a reflection and planning process for the end of a year and the beginning of a new one. 2018 focus areas include: people, places, movement, creativity and career. Self-compassion and compassion for others are lenses through which I plan to focus on these areas and I’m excited by what emerges when working from this place.

The new year is a natural time for us to focus on our careers and where we’d like to make progress. It’s a time when many organizations have fresh budgets and it can be tempting to think the timing is right to ask for more money or a promotion. A few months back, I wrote a blog post about the financial mood of an organization and getting a firm pulse on it before asking for more money. There is also a need to reflect on how much the organization values our work and knows about our contributions.

On one occasion in my career, I thought it was time to negotiate a promotion due to taking on significantly more responsibility. However, after sharing my potential approaches with a trusted friend, the advice came back loud and clear: it was not the right time. More setting of the stage and demonstrating value was needed. This advice was 100% accurate and helped me craft a better path and the patience to go down it more purposefully.

I encourage you to share your negotiation plans with a trusted friend to get an outside opinion on your approach and determine if the timing is right for making your request.